Friday, May 1, 2009
Stop the Lies
Lies and the people who tell them. What is a lie really and why are we afraid of truth?
My daughter lied to her friend. She has yet to understand that outside of the now, her friend will more than likely find out. Problem is she will have to tell more lies. The reason she told it? So she wouldn't hurt her feelings. Oh but she will. Is it worth hurting someone you care about to have moment of satisfaction?
Lies damage lives. They hurt the liar and the very person you are trying to protect, even more so. I have said numerous times, your honesty and communication allows the people you have relationships with the option to chose what is best for them.
I despise liars. Yes I have lied and been a effing bad liar at times in my life, realizing I wasn't making good choices. After realizing that my life is mine to decide for myself, I took another approach. Honesty. Then there is no explanation necessary.
Being honest is very hard to do, really. I mean how often do we tell a waiter that everything is good when it's not what they claimed to be? I know I have. Yes, I can tolerate it but I may not be back. Why don't I just tell them that, they asked?
I don't seek out to spew my opinion on everyone I meet, but if you ask, I will tell you my truth. And I will listen to yours. But I do expect the truth.
The bigger the lie the more lies. How do you sleep at night living a double life? Do you think if only I get away with this that you will treat that person better? Or do you continue to only ask for and get half truths?
I can't imagine being with someone I needed to hide things from. Really what is the point? Secrets will destroy and lies will kill the soul.
Be who you are.