All of it... is Rubbish.

Seems I have been bombarded with a lot of relationship issues of late.

A lot of my male clients are talking and telling me very depressing things. Things I have been through and heard of and seen in my world and the world around me. It is common. It is life. And it is not going to end by me writing this silly blog.

But it sucks to know of all these things. And of course I am a hypochondriac that has all these symptoms to this rare and incurable disease. Commitment.

I am a committment fool. I love being in a relationship. I have been in one since I was about 14. Well, I have been in several since then, but have had very little down time without a man. I like men. They are much easier to live with, dont talk as much, dont take your clothes or make-up or hair products. They just want to eat tasty food, have a few cocktails, use the remote and have their penis' touched. (and we all know about the penis's needs)

Why. WHY? Are so many people unsatisfied? In love and home life? I think we fall in love and get married and have a family and it is hard to have a family. And maybe even do these things for the wrong reasons.

I felt that way, the 'prove it, if you love me' way. What a mistake that would have been had they called my bluff. I have felt that way to even put a timeline on the big C and threatened the end of a relationship if it didnt go that way. Which makes no sense whatsoever. If you love someone you cant really stop just because there hasnt been a promise of "I Do"

I have been that woman that wanted to be married. Although it was long ago. And even before I was ever engaged the 1st time.... I have, by the grace of my own goddessness, realized that marriage is truly a state of mind. Or is it?

It is and and maybe it isn't. When people go through the ritual of getting married, the ceremony of a commitment, they have established a promise and worked through a big and often stressful event together. This can give an open view into how couples handle various things that wedding planning creates. I often think that any sort of wedding info should always start with, "Plan your marriage with as great of detail as you plan your wedding".

I have seen the unhappy relationships. With a few questions, it is easy to figure out why people become unhappy. My assumption would put about 98.9% at a communication breakdown. Over time creating serious resentment and a passive aggressive household.

My opinion is that we have either not learned how to speak in honest ways and/or learned to have discussions that solve issues.

There are things that are difficult to talk about. Money is one of them. It is very stressful when one or both partners have fears about money. That is a conversation that must be honestly brought to the table and worked out. New goals have to be set when changes happen. We are all going through changes right now.

Sex is another topic that is difficult when one person is not showing an interest in sex. We all know that men and women are different in so many ways. I think if the woman in not fulfilling her role in the bedroom, there is a reason. (it is usually the woman) Communicate. Ask questions. Listen. FIND a solution. Whether this discussion takes an hour or a month. Then work at it daily

Sadly, I dont know if I believe forever exists. I think it is possible. But very rare. So I will keep on communicating and asking for what I want and show my willingness to compromise and solve problems. It is a two way street.